Zi Gong, a student of Confucius, once asked Confucius, "Teacher, is there a sentence that can be used as a principle of being a man?" Confucius said, "This is probably forgiveness." "Forgiveness", in today's words, is tolerance.
A prime minister is big-minded-broad-minded/broad-minded/magnanimous.
Shu in the Three Kingdoms period appointed Jiang Wan to preside over the state affairs after Zhuge Liang's death. One of his subordinates is Yang, who is withdrawn and speaks slowly. When Jiang Wan talked to him, he only answered. Someone couldn't get used to it and muttered in front of Jiang Wan: "It's outrageous that Yang is so rude to you!" Jiang Wan smiled indifferently and said, "Everyone has his own temperament. It's not in Yang's nature to praise me to my face. Let him criticize me in front of everyone, and he will feel ashamed of me. So, he had to keep silent. In fact, this is his valuable place. " Later, some people praised Jiang Wan that "the prime minister can punt in his stomach".
Offer a birch and ask for whipping ―― Humble and sincere apology.
Lin Xiangru was named Shangqing for his feat of "returning to Zhao safely", ranking above Lian Po. Lian Po defy spirit, threatened to humiliate Lin Xiangru face to face. Lin Xiangru learned that, as far as possible to avoid, tolerance, not conflict with Lian Po. Lin Xiangru's minions thought he was afraid of Lian Po, but Lin Xiangru said, "The State of Qin did not dare to invade our State of Zhao because of me and General Lian. When I tolerate and succumb to General Lian, I will put the national crisis ahead and personal grievances behind! " When Lian Po heard this, there was the story of Lian Po's "offer a humble apology".
Renyi Hu tong
Dong was a native of Jiyang, Shandong Province, and was an official in Beijing during the Ming Dynasty. One day, he received a letter from home saying that his house was built to lay a foundation, and he had a quarrel with his neighbor, hoping that he could use his power to solve the matter. Dong immediately wrote a book after reading it, saying, "A thousand miles to send books is just for the wall, and I can't help laughing and breaking my heart;" You are very kind to me and close to me. Why not give up both feet? "After the family saw it, they felt that Dong made sense. When building a house, they voluntarily gave up a few feet of land. Neighbors saw Dong Jia's behavior and felt something, so they followed suit. As a result, the two families gave up a place eight feet wide. After the house is built, there is an alley, which the world calls Renyi Hutong.
In the Tang Dynasty, Mr. Lou taught his younger brother to be tolerant of officials. His brother said, "Someone spit in my face and I wiped it off myself." Teacher Lou said, "This is not enough. Do you erase it, or do you insult you against the will of angry people? I think it is better to let Tucao kill naturally. "
An example of celebrity tolerance
In the Spring and Autumn Period, Chu Zhuangwang won the championship.
One night, I held a candlelight party with my beloved princess and held a grand banquet for the ministers. Halfway through the wine, suddenly a strong wind blew out the candle. A military commander wanted to flirt with Princess Ai in the dark, and Princess Ai tore off the red tassel on his helmet. Princess Ai suggested that the King of Chu light a lamp at once to see which guy lost the red tassel on his helmet and severely punish him. A friend's wife should not be bullied, let alone a leader's wife. Unexpectedly, King Zhuang was magnanimous and ordered all the generals to take off the red tassels on their helmets before lighting the lamps. Soon, the king of Chu made a personal expedition, engaged the enemy, and fell into a tight encirclement. His soldiers will flee everywhere, and the life of the king of Chu is at stake. Suddenly, a desperate battle appeared to protect deus ex, the king of Chu, and get back a life. The king of Chu said excitedly, "Everyone else is running for their lives. Only Ai Qing is willing to lay down his life to save the driver. What's your name? Which unit is it? " The general should answer: "I was the one who molested your wife at the candlelight party that day!" " "