The Story of Tolerance: Zen Buddhism
According to legend, one night, an old Zen master was walking in a temple when he suddenly saw a chair near the corner. At first glance, he knew that a monk had violated the temple rules and went out for a walk. The old Zen master walked to the wall without saying a word, moved the chair away and squatted down on the spot. Later, a young monk jumped over the wall in the dark and jumped into the yard.
When his foot fell to the ground, he realized that he had just stepped on his master, not a chair. The young monk suddenly panicked and was tongue-tied. But to his surprise, the master did not reprimand him sharply, but said in a calm tone, "It's cold at night, so you should put on more clothes."
We can imagine how the disciples of the old Zen master felt after hearing this. In this tolerant and silent education, his disciples were not punished for his mistakes, but were educated.
Story of Tolerance 2: Liuchi Lane
Zhang, the prime minister of Qing Dynasty, and Ye, the assistant minister, were both from Tongcheng, Anhui. The two families live next door, both want to build a house, and they have a dispute over the land. Mrs. Zhang wrote in Beijing, asking Prime Minister Zhang to intervene. After all, the prime minister is knowledgeable. After reading the letter, he immediately wrote a poem to persuade the old lady: "A letter of a thousand miles is just a wall, why not let it go three feet?" "The Great Wall of Wan Li is still there today, and Qin Shihuang is not seen." When Zhang Mu saw that the book was reasonable, she immediately stepped back three feet. Ye Jia was deeply ashamed to see this scene, and immediately put the wall back three feet. In this way, a six-foot-wide roadway was formed between Zhang Ye's house and the courtyard wall of Zhang Ye's house, which became a famous "six-foot alley". What Zhang lost was the ancestral homestead, and it was indeed a good reputation of harmonious neighborhood and immortality.
Story of Tolerance III: Anecdotes of the Prime Minister
Once, when the barber was shaving Premier Zhou, the Premier suddenly coughed and the knife immediately scratched his face. The barber was very nervous and at a loss, but to his surprise, Premier Zhou didn't blame him, but kindly said to him, "It's not your fault. I didn't say hello to you before coughing. How did you know I was moving? " Although this is a trivial matter, it shows us the virtue of Premier Zhou-tolerance.
Story of Tolerance 4: The Story of Cigarettes
Once, several buddies went to a friend's house to watch a ball game.
Men can't watch football without smoking. It was not until the end of the game that we found that we had smoked three boxes of cigarettes. My friend's wife is always with us. However, she said nothing. Just when we are not paying attention, open the window and let in fresh air. We find it strange. Why don't you just ignore him and smoke like us? A buddy asked.
My friend's wife smiled and said, I also know that smoking is harmful to health, but if smoking can make him happy, why should I stop it? I petition that my husband can live happily to 60 years old, instead of barely living to 80 years old. After all, a person's happiness can't be bought at any time and any money.
When we met this friend again, he had given up smoking. Asked why, he said with a silly smile: She can think of my happiness, and I can't let myself leave her 20 years earlier.
Story 5: Marriage Past Events
On the 50th anniversary of his golden wedding, an old mother told her guests the secret of keeping their marriage happy. She said: "From the day I got married, I was going to list my husband's 10 shortcomings. For the happiness of our marriage, I promised myself that whenever he made these 65,438+00 mistakes, I would forgive him. " Someone asked, what are the disadvantages of 10? She replied: "To tell the truth, for 50 years, I have never listed the shortcomings of 10 in detail. Whenever my husband does something wrong and makes me jump, I immediately remind myself that he is lucky, and he made one of the 10 mistakes that I can forgive. "
This story tells us that in the long journey of marriage, it is not always sunny and flowers are in full bloom, but there are also summer, summer and winter, with wind, frost, snow and rain. In the face of some small contradictions in life, if you can learn to be tolerant and patient like that old mother, you will find that happiness is actually around you.
In life, tolerance is really an invincible force. Friends who are tolerant of each other must share joys and sorrows; Couples who are tolerant of each other must grow old together; A tolerant world must be peaceful and beautiful. Why don't we be more tolerant and more tolerant?
2 Inclusive stories. . .
Let me tell you a story. There is an old man selling bowls. He went on the road with a backpack full of bowls. He broke a bowl after two steps, but he walked forward without looking back. Passers-by asked him why he didn't look back. The old man said, if you fall, you fall. It can't be better. Things have passed, we should let them go, and no matter how we recall them, it is futile to say more.
③ Inclusive idiom stories
Hide dirt and accept dirt-hide dirt and accept dirt.
Dirt: something dirty. Metaphor hides or tolerates bad guys.
It is estimated to be large and can contain different things.
Mount Tai does not reject tiny earth and stone, so it can be so high. Metaphor is that people are measured and can tolerate different things.
People have self-control and can tolerate all good and evil, good and evil.
It has the characteristics that lakes and rivers can accommodate all kinds of water flows. Metaphor people have self-restraint, can tolerate all good and evil, and have a good reputation.
Be tolerant in the long run.
Metaphor is tolerant and generous for long-term interests.
④ A short story about tolerance.
First of all, the story of tolerance:
1, "Apologize with a humble apology": Lin Xiangru was named Shangqing, ranking above Lian Po, for his meritorious service of "returning to Zhao in perfect condition". Lian Po defy spirit, threatened to humiliate Lin Xiangru face to face. Lin Xiangru learned, try not to conflict with Lian Po. Lin Xiangru's minions thought he was afraid of Lian Po, but Lin Xiangru said, "The State of Qin did not dare to invade our State of Zhao because of me and General Lian. When I tolerate and succumb to General Lian, I will put the national crisis ahead and personal grievances behind! " When Lian Po heard this, there was the story of Lian Po's "offer a humble apology".
2. "Liszt accepts students": A girl is going to have a concert, and the poster says that she is a student of Liszt. Liszt appeared in front of the girl the day before the performance. The girl was frightened and sobbed, claiming that she had no livelihood and asking for forgiveness. Liszt asked her to give him her bullet and give him some advice. Finally, she said brightly: "Come on stage and act boldly. You are my student now. You can announce to the theater manager that the teacher will play the last program of the party for the students. " Liszt played the last song at the concert.
3. Renyi Hutong: During the Ming Dynasty, Dong, a native of Jiyang, Shandong Province, was an official in Beijing. One day, he received a letter from home saying that his house was built to lay a foundation, and he had a quarrel with his neighbor, hoping that he could use his power to solve the matter. Dong immediately wrote a book after reading it, saying, "A thousand miles to send books is just for the wall, and I can't help laughing and breaking my heart;" You are very kind to me and close to me. Why not give up both feet? "After the family saw it, they felt that Dong made sense. When building a house, they voluntarily gave up a few feet of land. Neighbors saw Dong Jia's behavior and felt something, so they followed suit. As a result, the two families gave up a place eight feet wide. After the house is built, there is an alley, which the world calls Renyi Hutong.
4. "The prime minister can get off the boat in his stomach": Shu in the Three Kingdoms period appointed Jiang Wan to preside over the state affairs after Zhuge Liang's death. One of his subordinates is Yang, who is withdrawn and speaks slowly. When Jiang Wan talked to him, he only answered. Someone couldn't get used to it and muttered in front of Jiang Wan: "It's outrageous that Yang is so rude to you!" Jiang Wan smiled indifferently and said, "Everyone has his own temperament. It's not in Yang's nature to praise me to my face. So, he had to keep silent. In fact, this is his valuable place. " Some people praised Jiang Wan for "the prime minister can hold a boat in his stomach".
5. Zhang Ying ceded territory: During the Kangxi period of Qing Dynasty, there was a college student named Zhang Ying. One day, Zhang Ying received a letter from his family, saying that his family had an argument with his neighbor for a three-foot wide homestead, and asked him to use his power to smooth the relationship and win the lawsuit. After reading the letter, Zhang Ying smiled indifferently and wrote a letter with a poem: Why not let him write a three-foot book? The Great Wall of Wan Li is still there today, but I haven't seen Qin Shihuang. After receiving the letter, the family gave up the three-foot homestead. Neighbors saw it and offered to give it to each other. As a result, it became a six-foot driveway. The story of turning an enemy into a friend has been passed down to this day.
Second, tolerance is the supreme virtue in human life. Because tolerance contains people's mind, because tolerance can transcend everything, because tolerance needs a broad heart. Because tolerance is the most important part of human emotions, which can melt the frost in my heart. The lack of tolerance will make personality degenerate from greatness to even ordinary.
(4) Extended reading of inclusive stories:
1, the usual "tolerance" is to forgive others' temporary mistakes, don't care, and be a generous person in a friendly way. Tolerance is like water, and encountering contradictions is often more effective than excessive retaliation. It is like a clear spring, slowly erasing the temporary hostility of the other party, making people calm down, so as to see the original reason of the matter clearly. At the same time, I also saw myself clearly.
Tolerance can not only melt each other's freezing, but also radiate the heat of love to each other's hearts. In that era, which was criticized by some people as "materialism", what people with shrinking space from bottom to top lacked was not the tolerance between the two horses. If you choose tolerance, you choose understanding and warmth, and you choose the vastness of life.
3. In his masterpiece Tolerance, the famous writer Long Fang quoted the definition of tolerance in the British online encyclopedia: Tolerance refers to allowing others to act or judge freely; Patiently and without prejudice tolerate opinions that are inconsistent with one's own or accepted views. China Modern Chinese Dictionary explains tolerance as: magnanimous, unconcerned and not pursued.
(5) examples of tolerance
1, Premier Zhou's tolerant story
Once, when the barber was shaving Premier Zhou, the Premier suddenly coughed and the knife immediately scratched his face. The barber was very nervous and at a loss, but to his surprise, Premier Zhou didn't blame him, but kindly said to him, It's not your fault. I didn't say hello to you before coughing. What's the matter with you? Do you know I'm moving? Although this is a trivial matter, it shows us the virtue of Premier Zhou-tolerance.
Tolerance is a kind of wisdom and strength. Mr. Tao Xingzhi's four sugars.
As early as more than half a century ago, Mr. Tao Xingzhi infiltrated the idea of democracy and tolerance into his educational practice and made it play a wonderful role.
When Mr. Tao Xingzhi was the principal, one day he saw a boy hitting his classmate with a brick, so he stopped him and told him to go to the principal's office. When President Tao returned to the office, the boy was already waiting there. Tao Xingzhi took out a candy for this classmate: This is a reward for you, because you got to the office before me. Then he took out another candy and said, this is for you, too. I won't let you hit your classmates, so you stopped at once, which shows that you respect me.
The boy took the second candy in doubt, and Mr. Tao added: As far as I know, you beat your classmate because he bullied girls, which shows that you have a sense of justice. I will reward you with another candy.
At this time, the boy was moved to tears and said, principal, I was wrong. If my classmates are wrong again, I can't take this way.
Mr. Tao then took out another candy: you have admitted your mistake, and I will reward you with another piece. I ran out of candy and our conversation was over.
3. Tolerance is the friendship between wisdom and strength.
Guan Zhong was a native of Qi in the Spring and Autumn Period. He is handsome, knowledgeable and knowledgeable, and has the ability to help the country and the world. When he was young, he did business with Bao and made money. Guan Zhong always took more. Everyone is very angry. Bao Shu Ya said: Guan Zhong is not a greedy person. He takes more because his family is poor. I'm willing to let him bear more.
Later, Guan Zhong joined the army, and every time he fought, he shrank to the back and retreated to the front. Others called him a coward. Bao stepped forward to stop others from laughing, saying that Guan Zhong did this because there was an old mother in his family who needed his support.
Guan Zhong was very moved and said: It was my parents who gave birth to me, and it was Bao who really understood me! From then on, the two of them became friends of life and death.
It is said that Qi Xianggong has two sons. The eldest son is Jiao and his mother is from Shandong. The youngest son is Xiao Bai, and his mother is from Juguo. Guan Zhong said to Bao: After death, either Jiao succeeded to the throne or he succeeded to the throne. Now we are teachers of Jiao He, and no matter who is the monarch, we should recommend each other.
Bao thought it was a good idea, so Guan Zhong became Gong Zijiu's teacher and Bao became his teacher.
Qi Xianggong was a bad king and was killed by the minister. At that time, Gong Zijiu was in Lu and Ju. Ministers decided to welcome Miyako back to China as a monarch.
Lu sent someone to send omiya home for a long time, and Ju sent someone to send childe home. Guan Zhong was afraid that Xiaobai would return to China first, so he caught up with Xiaobai, the son, and shot him with an arrow. The son pretended to be shot by an arrow, deceived Guan Zhong, and then hurried back to Qi with his bag to be king, that is.
Duke Zhuang of Lu was very angry when he heard that his son Xiao Bai had become a monarch. He sent troops to attack Qi, but he was defeated and returned. Under the pressure of Qi, Lu killed Jiao and sent Guan Zhong back to Qi.
Qi Huangong wanted Bao to be the prime minister. Bao said: Guan Zhong is a very talented person. He is ten times better than me. I hope your king won't hold a grudge against him for shooting arrows at you, and let him be the prime minister.
Huan Gong thought for a moment and said, Well, I'll see him first and see what he can do.
Qi Huangong chose one day to personally take Guan Zhong to the palace, and Guan Zhong and Qi Huangong talked about his strategy of governing the country. Guan Zhong made it very clear that Qi Huangong listened with relish. They talked for three days and nights. Qi Huangong was very happy, so he handed over all the affairs of the country to Guan Zhong and called him Wen Zhong.
After Guan Zhong's death, Bao became prime minister, and Bao said: I am too clear about good and evil to be competent. In order to make Bao a prime minister, he drove three of his favorite villains out of the palace gate and became a prime minister.
There is a story in Romance of the Three Kingdoms that Zhuge Liang captured Meng Huo seven times.
After Liu Bei's death, Zhuge Liang, the prime minister of Shu, prepared for the northern expedition to the Central Plains. Meng Huo, the leader of ethnic minorities at that time, launched a rebellion in southern Sichuan, that is, at the junction of Yunnan and Guizhou. Zhuge Liang decided to personally lead the troops to quell the rebellion and relieve his worries first. It was suggested that sending a general south was enough to destroy Meng Huo, so that the Prime Minister would not have to go deep into the barren land. But Zhuge Liang saw further, and he had to be kind to Meng Huo in order to win people's hearts.
Meng Huo is courageous and loyal, and enjoys great prestige among ethnic minorities. Zhuge Liang ordered his men not to hurt Meng Huo, but to take him alive.
In the first battle, the Shu army captured Meng Huo under the command of Zhuge Liang. The soldiers put Meng Huo into the camp, Zhuge Liang untied him himself and asked people to give him a banquet.
The next day, after Zhuge Liang accompanied him to visit the Shu military camp, he asked Meng Huo: What about our military camp? Instead of praising, Meng Huo said, that's it. I didn't know your truth before, so I was defeated. Now that I have seen your deployment, if you let me go back, I will definitely beat you in another battle.
Zhuge Liang smiled and let Meng Huo go. A few days later, Meng Huo led the troops to challenge and was defeated and captured. Meng Huo still refused to admit defeat, and Zhuge Liang let him go again.
Meng Huo fought against Zhuge Liang again and again, fighting seven times in a row and being captured seven times. Escort Meng Huo to the camp of the Shu army for the last time. The soldier handed down Zhuge Liang's orders and said: The Prime Minister didn't want to see Meng Huo again, so he ordered Meng Huo to go back and let him tidy up his troops before deciding the outcome.
Meng Huo thought for a long time and said, "This has never happened since ancient times. The Prime Minister gave me great face. Although I don't have much knowledge, I also know the truth of being a man. How can I lose face to the Prime Minister like that? " ! After that, he knelt on the ground and said with tears: Prime Minister Tianwei, we will never rebel again!
Zhuge Liang is very happy. He quickly helped Meng Huo up, invited him into the camp, hosted a banquet, and finally politely sent Meng Huo out of the camp and let him go back.
From then on, Meng Huo went his own way and surrendered to Shu Han. Until Zhuge Liang died, he did not rebel. This objectively cleared the worries for Shu Han to send troops to the Central Plains, and greatly promoted the life stability and economic development of ethnic minorities in southwest China. The wisdom of tolerance:
Zhuge Liang captured Meng Huo seven times and showed his wisdom and tolerance incisively and vividly, winning long-term stability on one side.
Tolerance is an acceptance, letting bygones be bygones, and embracing everything with a broad mind. Only those who can accept the world can get the world. Those successful people have achieved great things because of their understanding of tolerance.
Tolerance is a kind of wisdom and strength.
Picasso didn't care about fake paintings pretending to be his works, and he never paid attention to them. When you see the fake he painted, you can only erase the forged signature at most.
Why should I make a mountain out of a molehill Picasso said that people who fake paintings are either poor painters or old friends. I'm Spanish. I can't embarrass my old friends. Besides, the experts who identify the original work also have to eat, and I didn't suffer.
6. Napoleon's tolerance
Napoleon developed the virtue of tolerating others in his long military career. As the commander-in-chief of the whole army, it often happens to criticize soldiers, but every time he is not domineering, he can take care of the soldiers' emotions. Soldiers often readily accept his criticism and are full of love and gratitude to him, which greatly enhances the combat effectiveness and cohesion of his army and becomes a powerful force in the European continent.
In the battle to conquer Italy, the soldiers worked hard. Napoleon patrolled the post at night. During the patrol, he found a patrolling soldier leaning against a big tree and falling asleep. Instead of waking the soldiers, he picked up a gun and stood up for him. About half an hour later, the sentry woke up from a deep sleep. He recognized his supreme commander and was very scared.
Napoleon was not angry. He said to him kindly, friend, this is your gun. You have worked hard and walked such a long way. It is understandable and tolerable for you to doze off, but at present, a moment's negligence may ruin the whole army. I was not sleepy, so I stood for you for a while. I must be careful next time.
Napoleon didn't swear, didn't reprimand loudly, and didn't put on airs as a marshal. Instead, he criticized the soldiers' mistakes with a serious and gentle breeze and drizzle. With such a generous marshal, how can soldiers not fight bravely? If Napoleon did not tolerate soldiers, it would only increase their sense of resistance, lose his prestige among soldiers and weaken the combat effectiveness of the army.
6. Stories about tolerance
Let me tell you one. According to legend, there was an abbot in ancient times who was very good at doing things. He is kind at ordinary times, helps the poor and has a wide network of contacts, and is deeply respected and loved by the people of Fiona Fang Baili. It is said that one day, a girl in Shanxia Village got pregnant because she secretly fell in love with her sweetheart, which was immoral in ancient times. The woman's family was very angry. While accusing the girl, they were afraid to ask who the man was. The girl said that she was an abbot against her will, so after the child was born, her family immediately sent the child to the abbot and scolded him. But the abbot didn't intercede and took over the child. The abbot's position in people's minds plummeted and became notorious, becoming a "hypocrite" and an "old goat". Wherever he goes, people spit on him. The saddest thing is that the old abbot doesn't want the child to be hungry. Every day, she has to drag her old body around the street to find milk for her children. After a long time, the girl finally realized that her family had told the truth, and her boyfriend stood up and took responsibility and insisted on marrying the woman. So the family found the abbot again, apologized to the abbot and held a ceremony to make amends. When people asked why they had to take the blame through no fault of their own, the abbot replied that whoever goes to hell will go to hell.