It takes a thousand years to be a husband and wife.
It's not easy to be a husband and wife. Cherish the fate and take good care of your lover.
Generally speaking, "crossing a boat for ten years, sleeping together for a hundred years" is more correct! Originated from The Legend of the Righteous Demon in Qing Dynasty. However, "you can cross the boat for a hundred years and sleep together for a thousand years" is also reasonable! No matter "10 years", "100 years" and "1000 years" here are all estimates, which means that fate is not easy! Try to cherish it!
"Help each other in the same boat" means that people are destined to have a relationship, and it will take ten years. Then couples who "sleep together" must be related and have a share, that is, a hundred years! It means it is not easy! I don't know why I use a boat and a pillow as an analogy. I just think this metaphor is just right and more vivid!
It takes a hundred years to help each other in the same boat, and a thousand years to share a bed. This is to describe how difficult it is for men and women, old and young, to get married together: sleeping together in this life is a good deed accumulated in the previous life 1000 years, so it can be seen that it is not a blood and tears in the previous life that can achieve the goal. Matter is not transferred by human consciousness, that is to say, reality is not what you think-quite in line with the logic of dialectical materialist world outlook.
"After a hundred years of training, you can help each other in the same boat. After a thousand years of training, you can sleep together." It is a word "fate". There is life, there is death, there is gathering and there is dispersion, and opportunities are all in one word. Needless to say, couples who share the same bed and are intimate, teachers and students, classmates, comrades-in-arms, neighbors, partners, even neighbors on the train, and even the crew and passengers of the whole train can come together. Isn't it a fate? This is not fate. How can we meet by chance in the vast sea of people? If it's not fate, what is it?
Destiny, though revealed by Buddhist scriptures, grasps the cognitive things that everyone understands, feels and cannot express. You don't need to be a gifted scholar or an extraordinary saint. As long as you have decades of life experience, no one has such a feeling: people and things are wonderful, neither early nor late, but unintentional. The world is vast in space and endless in time, but people and things like dust and dirt can meet at the same time and place, which is dozens of times more difficult than the gathering of nine planets in space. Many things and opportunities have such characteristics: welcome, avoid! You can't refuse to come, but you can't ask to come. This is not fate. What is this?