The ancients believed that there was only one motive force of yin and yang before heaven and earth. Under the interaction of yin and yang, they promote each other, are compatible with each other, rub each other, sway each other and communicate with each other, thus forming the universe, men and women. This kind of action is considered as endless circular movement, with yang failing and yin failing, and yin failing and yang failing. In this concept of the universe, men and women are both human forms. Men need women, and women need men. The sixty-third hexagram "Jiji" in the Book of Changes more clearly shows the perfect blend between men and women. This kind of blending is completed by both sides, which is "Kan"
At the bottom is "Li", and "Kan" stands for water, moon and woman. "Li" stands for fire, sun and people. Li Kan symbolizes the delicate balance between male and female elements.
The ancients defined the relationship between men and women as "harmony", and the relationship between men and women in the relationship between yin and yang was also "harmony". The former combination word is inclusive, compatible and attractive, while the latter combination word is peaceful, without front or back, without top or bottom, without height or low, without beginning or end. This is a three-dimensional Tai Chi, which together is Yuan, Heng, Li and Zhen. These four words imply a balance between yin and yang and a balance between men and women.
From this, we will think of China's Taiji diagram, which is an inclusive figure. You have me and I have you. The left half represents the budding Yang of Yin, and the right half represents the budding Yin of Yang. Men and women are the human form of this world view, which shows that men and women in this law are carriers of yin and yang, and yin and yang interact endlessly, and men and women intersect and multiply. The painter Wang Tao has a painting called Tianping, which depicts two naked men and women in Taiji. They are inclusive and intertwined, and they look beautiful. I admire the painter's bold imagination and conception. The image of this painting shows the origin of China culture and points out the origin of human life.
There is a cloud in the Book of Changes: "The Tao has changed, everyone has his own life, and peace is guaranteed. This is a fact. " With yin and yang, men and women have the word "harmony" and everything can live their own lives. The Book of Rites defines the relationship between Yin and Yang as: "Heaven and earth are virtuous, and Yin and Yang are interlinked." The highest virtue of heaven and earth is the connection of yin and yang, the connection of yin and yang, and the copulation of men and women. Sex imitates the virtue of heaven and earth, not adultery. Tao Te Ching said: "Everything is negative and holds Yang, and impulsive and harmonious." Only "negative and embracing yang" is the harmony of the world, and this is the driving force. Huangdi Neijing said: "Yin and Yang are the root of each other and balance each other." The two are mutually rooted, and the relationship between men and women is sexual.
At this point, there is a clear concept: Yin and Yang are always the contradictory unity of mutual movement, relative, interdependent, mutually rooted, harmonious, balanced and inseparable. Yin and Yang are three talents of heaven, earth and man. The ancients said: If there is heaven and earth, there must be men and women in everything, then men and women, then husband and wife, then father and son, then princes and ministers, then the etiquette is "Zhou Li". It is not difficult to see from this inference that the Book of Changes has always equated the relationship between men and women with the relationship between heaven and earth, and has always equated the roles of men and women with the roles of heaven and earth. At this point, we have clearly realized that the orderly evolution of nature and the relationship between the five virtues in humanities are all from the relationship between heaven and earth, the relationship between men and women, the relationship between husband and wife, to the evolution of father and son, monarch and minister, seniority, up and down, human relations, morality and culture, and all from the relationship between yin and yang and the relationship between men and women.
Therefore, the ancients believed that the stability of the relationship between men and women was the biggest thing in the world. Only when couples are together can the world be stable and harmonious. So the relationship between men and women is "the meaning of heaven and earth".
In this way, the topic of sex is so serious, so sacred, so not to be underestimated, so sacred. No wonder the ancients didn't downplay sex like we modern people. The ancient people's attitude towards sex was very pure, sacred and clear, and even they had to worship at a high altar. What? Because this is the virtue of heaven and earth and the foundation of mankind, everything of mankind comes from this. In order to make the gender more clear and emphasize the attraction of both sexes, the ancients often called "Yang" as "fire" or "sun".
Describe Yin as water or moon.
Books in the room often compare men's sexual experiences to "fire"
Compare a woman's sexual experience to "water"
. Flammable, easily extinguished in contact with water; It takes a long time for water to be heated by fire, but it cools slowly. There is no doubt that this is about the real difference between men and women before and after sex. We have to admire this metaphor of the ancients. The ancients believed that sexual behavior was the reappearance of the interaction between heaven and earth, and it was a natural phenomenon of sex and rain. Today, the word "sex" is still the most widely used sexual jargon, and the word "romantic moon" is also synonymous with love between men and women. You can see that our ancestors regarded the universal thing "sex" as an elegant thing and described it as an elegant thing, even a sacred and serious thing. Why? Because it is the foundation of interpersonal relationship.
If a Book of Changes is full of yin and yang, it is not enough to discuss the primitive relationship between sex and China culture, because there are too many evolvable things, reasons, contents and symbols in the Book of Changes. Didn't Americans evolve the principle of computers from the sixty-four hexagrams of the Book of Changes? Then, we can take China's The Book of Songs as an example. At the beginning of the Book of Songs, the first work is Guan Ju. "Guan Ju, in the boat of the river, is a gentle and graceful lady, and a gentleman is good."
I would like to ask, as the editor-in-chief of any newspaper today, we should take headlines seriously and put the most important and weighty articles at the top of the headlines. This is a programmatic thing. Even Confucius attached so much importance to men and women, which shows that the ancients attached importance to men and women. Why? The essence of man is the virtue of heaven and earth.
In the early 1980s, a statue of Hongshan Goddess was unearthed at Niuheliang site in Chaoyang, Liaoning, which caused a sensation in the world. China civilization has advanced 1000 years. Today, when we uncover the mystery that has been covered by the goddess of Hongshan for 5,000 years and wipe away the dust of history, it will surprise us again, because it also involves the topic of "sex". When I first saw the unearthed photos of Hongshan Goddess, I had this association. Although the goddess' head was incomplete, her nose was later discovered, with an ear missing and a defect above her forehead. However, I noticed that a pair of women's breasts were abandoned at the lower right of their heads. These breasts are plump and huge, and only mature women have them. Later, we found that the legs of the dismembered goddess sitting cross-legged were also naked, so that we could get the whole picture of the goddess of Hongshan: she had long hair shawls, was naked, had a huge chest, and sat cross-legged on the altar, which was easily reminiscent of "sex."
Women's breasts are related to fertility and sex. In ancient times, the word "mother" and "cool" were the same word, and the word "cool" particularly emphasized women's breasts. When many people find the head of the goddess, the first thing to study is the head. That's understandable, but don't forget these breasts. Perhaps this is the real significance of the study and textual research on the goddess of Hongshan. Because we have seen several smaller nude statues of women on Niuheliang, they are characterized by big breasts and fat buttocks, and especially emphasize the sexual characteristics of women. Of course, the emphasis here is on fertility and parenting, but they are all related to sex. Therefore, this further proves that our ancestors were not as secretive as we modern people, but showed great virginity, generosity and no evil thoughts. Moreover, the nude statue of the goddess Akayama is thousands of years earlier than Venus in the west, and it is exaggerated and distorted. This paper puts a reasonable emphasis on women's sexual characteristics, which proves that China's sexual civilization culture is thousands of years earlier than that of the West, and it is more civilized and open than the West.
Therefore, as a literate person, it is difficult for him to know very little about the fundamental culture of his own nation. However, few people in modern China studied it deeply. But there is a foreigner (Dutchman) named Gao Luopei, who has conducted in-depth research and textual research on China's sexual culture, and his behavior makes China people feel ashamed.
The study of sex in ancient China can be described as a great landscape in a hundred gardens. The tributaries of this long cultural river are full of twists and turns, and each historical period is different and colorful. There are famous articles from Yi to Yi Wen Shu Zhi, which were regarded as one of the medical skills in the Western Han Dynasty and never regarded as obscene. After the Six Dynasties, Taoism's "sexual intercourse theory" and "maid-in-waiting immortal theory" were recited and studied by people, and were not considered taboo. During the Sui and Tang Dynasties, Tantric Buddhism was introduced into China, and the theory of copulation consciousness was integrated with Taoist Qi Xian theory. This kind of works emerge in an endless stream, which are displayed in Dunhuang frescoes and quoted with notes in Da Le's Fu, so they are well prepared. Neo-Confucianism pushes ethics and abstinence to the extreme, which is the alienation of human nature and the shackles of human development. However, there is another world among the people, and the literati have nothing to do with it, so they indulge in rhetoric, set up bar prostitutes, blossom everywhere, block public channels, and surging undercurrents. Perhaps this was not thought of by Zhu Cheng's Neo-Confucianism. At that time, poetry and songs were widely sung, and even prostitutes were masters of lyrics. "It can be said that this is unfortunate. "
. Sanqu popular in Liao and Jin dynasties, especially the opera of love between men and women, is long and short. Folk oral creation is one palace with two tones, graceful or bold, burning the love and loyalty between men and women, further embodying the song of freedom for men and women suppressed by Neo-Confucianism and ethics. After the Ming Dynasty, talented intellectuals made a difference in the beautiful scenery of the south of the Yangtze River. They made a big fuss about Xuan Nv, hyped it up, and it was very popular. At that time, painters and novelists in China also went their separate ways. For example, romantic talents in Tang Bohu and Chou Ying also paint erotic paintings, which are no less colorful than those in the West. Novelists are unwilling to be lonely. A large number of erotic novels are widely circulated among the people. The role of these erotic novels should not be underestimated. They cover everything from court to folk life. They have played a certain role in spreading culture and promoting the development of China vernacular novels.
Compared with China's orthodox classic culture, it is a form of "subculture". Although it is not ideal, it is more suitable for people's lives. After the Qing dynasty, although the color of hair and clothing changed, it was no less than the first dynasty in boudoir, and even surpassed the first dynasty. Confucianism prevailed and Song Xue was praised. Therefore, some erotic novels were kept secret or even banned, and less than one-tenth of them were preserved after Qianlong and Jiaqing. In the 18 and 19 centuries, some westerners came to China to investigate the sex culture of China, but it was difficult to find such books. They are secretive when they ask people, and they all think that China's sex is dirty. What's more, they can't blame foreigners for this misunderstanding. Where do they know that the things in Chinese rooms are very healthy and civilized, even exquisite, scientific and reasonable, without debauchery and tyranny? Gao Luopei, a Dutchman, made an in-depth study of China's sexual culture and lamented that "China's room is quiet and hygienic, and there is no tyrannical madness and weird behavior, which can be described as the glory of Chinese civilization." From this perspective, China's sexual culture is praised by foreigners, but as a China person, why not explore it? In the past, people in China avoided talking about sex in permitted research fields. Medical students don't know the art of bedroom, religious students don't know the esoteric religion, and most of them mention the art history of Jin Ping Mei when writing novels, ignoring erotic paintings, which makes some problems become forgotten corners. A lot of materials are dusty in the library, unknown, such as the relationship between bedroom and Taoism, the relationship between erotic paintings and erotic novels and their progressive significance. Sexual fantasy and description in China's classical poems, and the significance of China's home art in traditional Chinese medicine. These are closely related to China culture and need to be explored and excavated. Isn't this the responsibility of China cultural people? More importantly, it is also an indispensable part of China culture.