Marriage is an art and an unanswered question. Everyone's views and practices are different, and the results are often strange. But in marriage, the last thing a woman can accept is being divorced, because a woman's divorce represents an indelible scar in her life.

The cause of divorce is often the result of many small contradictions accumulated to a certain extent. In marriage, especially women should handle their own problems in marriage, and don't let these problems develop into the fuse of divorce.

Looking at the reasons why women divorce, people who still do these four things in middle age will divorce sooner or later. Let's listen to the history of blood and tears of four divorced women.

1, Ms. Gu, 43, it's useless to blame her man.

When I first got married, my husband was very kind to me. He listens to me in everything, always takes me as the center, lives a down-to-earth and comfortable life, and thinks this is the state of marriage.

But as the years passed and my face grew old, my husband became more and more disobedient and even learned to quarrel with me, which made me particularly uncomfortable. I will naturally complain about this kind of thing with my best friend, but with the comparison with other people's homes, I find that the men in my family are much worse, the house is not as good as others', the car is not as expensive as others', and men in other people's homes don't love their wives.

Once a woman is dissatisfied with a man, it is followed by endless complaints, so I often complain that my man is useless. Over time, I found that men are really more and more useless. The turning point in life is 42 years old. This year, the man finally couldn't help asking for a divorce. He was willing to leave home cleanly and didn't want to live with me again. That decisive attitude made me irreparable and ended in divorce.

2. Ms. Meng, 4 1 year old, has no bottom line to help her family.

I don't know if I'm really wrong. When I married my husband, I thought he was nice, honest and single-minded. What's more gratifying is that he worked very hard. After less than four years of marriage, he not only bought a house but also a car, which made me feel particularly proud when I went back to my hometown, and also made my parents who opposed our being together sit up and take notice.

Are human feelings always like this? When you are poor, no one will respect you, even your parents and brothers. Once rich, even relatives who haven't seen each other for eight generations want to get involved.

I especially dislike such people, but I can't refuse their demands on my parents and brothers. Every time I make up my mind not to help them, I am always moved by their fake behavior. The bottomless support of parents and families eventually led to divorce. At the moment of divorce, my husband spoke the truest words in his heart: I married you, not your family, and I should have the bottom line of helping others. Over the years, I have calculated every sum of money you spend, but I have reminded you many times. My money didn't come from the strong wind, and we will support the elderly in the future ... but no matter how much I guarantee, I can't get my divorce back, and finally I lost my happy home.

3.49-year-old Ms. Ping always criticizes her mother-in-law in front of men.

Before I got married, I always laughed at the person who saved my mother first: which one will the man save first when his wife and mother fall into the water? Now I finally understand that no matter how long time has passed and how much changes have taken place in feelings, men will always save their mothers first.

The failure of my marriage is that I take myself too seriously, thinking that marrying a man is a lifetime, so I always criticize my mother-in-law in front of men, making the relationship at home more and more tense, and finally making it to the point where there is no her. The man finally abandoned me and chose the latter.

Divorce made me deeply understand that no matter what age a woman is, she should not be too stupid to say her mother-in-law's fault in front of a man, which will only make him more and more annoyed with you and will not have a good end.

4.38-year-old Ms Huang is too close to friends of the opposite sex.

Men are more jealous than women. Sometimes women can tolerate men approaching other opposite sex, but men are smaller than needles in this respect.

It's because I always get too close to friends of the opposite sex, whether in the company or in daily life, which causes men's insecurity. When I come home late, I am often asked questions by men. After a long time, even if I didn't do anything bad, I would be suspected by men, so the relationship between husband and wife became worse and worse, and finally the divorce became a fact.

So remind all married women to keep a distance from other opposite sex when they get married, otherwise it will greatly affect the feelings between husband and wife.

Conclusion: Summarize the lessons of four divorced women, and remind all women that in marriage, women must play a proper role, manage marriage with heart, and have a proper degree for family and friends. Otherwise, you will definitely lose yourself, which will seriously affect the feelings between husband and wife and lead to irreconcilable consequences. Marriage is not easy, so cherish it.