But limited by that relatively closed era, many things have strong limitations.
For example, as the saying goes, "Men are not as big as women", the implication is that in this matter, men are not as big as women, that is, 12 years old, and women are not as big as men.
Seeing this, I believe many people have opened their mouths and eyes, which is incredible.
In such a word, the love between brother and sister was directly rejected by a unanimous vote.
In fact, after understanding the living conditions of the ancients, I believe most people will understand.
Because in ancient society, the social status of men and women was unequal, and the status of women was very low.
Due to natural disasters and wars, the population has decreased sharply, so the next important task of carrying on the family line falls on the majority of women.
If you don't get married after the prescribed age, you will be punished.
This can be found in ancient books. For example, Zhou Li said, "Mid-spring Moon will make men and women meet, so at that time, there is nothing anyone can do to run. If they have no reason to use it, they will be punished.
In addition, it is also recorded in Wu Jindi Ji that Sima Yan issued an imperial edict in the winter and October of Taishi 9 th year, saying, "If parents don't marry at the age of 17, they should ask the chief to marry them.
"Later, not only the woman herself will be punished, but even her family will be implicated.
"The Biography of Song and Zhou Shulang" records: "Women don't marry at fifteen, and the family sits on it.
"In other words, if a woman is not married at the age of 15, she and her family will face jail.
Over time, people have a subconscious cognition: if you marry a wife and have children, you should marry a beautiful young woman and go home. If you are older than yourself, don't consider it.
This is only one of the reasons. After reading a lot of materials carefully, I found that there are several reasons for such a proverb to spread among the people.
First, because the idea that men are superior to women is deeply rooted, marrying a woman younger than oneself is not only convenient for "discipline", but also can enjoy the pleasure brought by "control".
Second, because women do grow faster and earlier than men, their minds will be more mature than men of the same age.
We can also understand that most young men cannot restrict mature women, which is contrary to the first reason and will naturally not be recognized.
Thirdly, because older women are no longer dominant in fertility, most men will choose younger women as their wives under the oppression of the concept of "unfilial having three sons and no grandchildren".
Fourth, because "male chauvinism" has always existed, men like spoiled women, especially women younger than themselves, so young women have an absolute advantage in choice.
If you change to a woman older than yourself, it will be difficult to realize your desire to be spoiled and protected. Instead, you will become a "mom, mom, baby boy", which is very difficult for ancient people to accept that men are superior to women.
To sum up, it is understandable why the ancients said, "It is better to be a big boy than a big girl."
However, this thinking is no longer applicable today.
Because with the development and progress of society, equality between men and women has long been realized, and there is no matchmaker's words. Free love is regardless of age, as long as two people are happy together.
As for proverbs, we should treat them rationally and carefully analyze and understand these intangible cultural heritages.
Walking into the hearts of the ancients can achieve the realm of dancing with them.
Although our life is getting better and better, reading history can calm our hearts, and we can also review the past and learn new things.
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