1. Psychological construction:

Many people always have the desire to pursue the girl they want, but in the end they will never catch up. Maybe those people will say that they are timid, and some people will say that they will wait a little longer and chase after them in a few days. In fact, these "wait a minute" or "dare not" ideas are the enemies of pursuing girlfriends. You know, it's almost impossible to wait for girls to deliver their own babies these days. Unless you are handsome or rich, you'd better not think about this kind of good thing that fell from the sky. So, in this case, how do you chase your girlfriend? Actually, it's not that hard. You know, actually, most women are poor. Under the constraint of social morality, they can only wait for men to chase them. If she gives up your pursuit today, they will also worry about how long it will take for someone to chase them next time. Of course, this is not applicable in Jiaotong University, but it is a cruel fact for women outside.

On the other hand, some people are afraid of failure and will be laughed at by others, which is not a problem. Think about it, if you say that you don't talk much, she dares to say that she is being chased, but she doesn't like it, which is tantamount to killing herself. Today, she talks nonsense everywhere. Who will dare to chase her one day? Everyone is afraid of being an idiot in her mouth. I once knew a woman, and someone in her class came after her and flaunted around. As a result, no one laughed at the man On the contrary, the woman was not pursued until the third year of high school, and she didn't know her ignorance until she was old. Where did she come from? So don't be afraid to be the laughing stock of others. As long as you don't talk, who will know that your pursuit has failed? Moreover, failure is not shameful, cowardice really can never catch up with the girl you like! Besides, how do you know she's not waiting for you?

Some people think they are ugly, which is not like a problem. Ugly people just can't catch up with little girls. Some girls who don't grow up always regard men's good looks as the most important selection condition. I think for this kind of woman, she will have problems sooner or later. Come to think of it, of course, handsome guys are loved by everyone. When she is old, when she is old, what about the man who will stay to see her beauty and pursue her? I was laughed at by a woman for being ugly. Well, there may be more than one ... last time I went back to Taipei by train, the lady who was focused was called Bunny (two oversized front teeth), but this is not a problem. I always find a girlfriend. If I hate myself, I think even other girls will hate you. It's not like I've never seen a beautiful girl with an ugly boyfriend. How do you know she won't like you unless you try? Anyway, as a dead man, try to have a look. It may be successful, but it's better than winning an invoice!

So, don't be afraid of failure, no one will know even if it fails. It is always good to try. But don't chase one thing after another all day, or I will feel guilty.

However, don't think about chasing beautiful women all day. That kind of person is chased every day, and the average person can't catch up. Of course, it is not without exception. Some beautiful women just want a good man they can trust. Whether he is good-looking or not, it is naturally possible to like ordinary men. Maybe you are the type she expects, but how do you know until you try?

Having said so much, I just want everyone to put aside their psychological barriers first, but you say you have nothing. Why do people like you? Even if you catch up for a period of time, you can't keep it for a long time. It is necessary to enrich yourself properly. Enriching yourself does not mean learning from the East and the West. The main thing is that you can give full play to your strengths, and it is not too late to learn something else in your spare time. Besides, I don't want to chase girls. However, if people want to live a valuable life, they must have some advantages!

Then when you can pursue the woman you like with a normal heart, you have taken the first step to success.

2. Before operation:

First of all, everyone should have an understanding, that is, how to choose the object. Be sincere in choosing a partner, and don't take the mentality of playing and leaving. Similarly, you should also consider personality matching in advance to avoid the trouble of breaking up another day. However, this is a matter of different opinions. As long as both sides are satisfied, no matter how many difficulties can be overcome.

When I choose my goal, the first thing I have to face is how to get her attention.

Here are some suggestions for your reference:

No matter how trivial a thing is, as long as it is related to her, it must be emphasized:

When talking with a woman, you can first find that if you have something in common with her, a woman will immediately show her affection for you, and then she will relax her restrained expression and show intimacy during the conversation. It is not only women who show this kind of behavior when they find similarities, but also men, but it is especially obvious in women. Women are very sensitive to things that determine their fate. Among all sentient beings, if only you and she have something in common, she will feel mysterious and smell fate, so she will have a special affection for you. So you must emphasize the similarities and similarities between you and her.

B. women appreciate the elegance of men's conversation, not the content of the conversation;

Usually, girls' evaluation of a man is based on vague and approximate impression judgment, rather than objective and meticulous analysis. For example, women rarely say that this person has big eyes and a wide forehead, but it is easy to criticize "good people" and "gentle and kind people". The same is true of attitudes, such as "enthusiasm", "openness" and "honesty". Focus on the tone or action of the opposite sex, which is also a feature of women. Therefore, some people always feel that their eloquence is very dull, and they have nothing to say, fearing that they can't attract women's attention. In fact, instead of passively condescending, it is better to talk about your work or expertise actively and compare your posture. Then, although women don't know what you are talking about, they will open their eyes to appreciate your conversation style, and then accept your words, and even re-evaluate that you are really "extraordinary" and immediately show a cordial attitude! I have a junior who is like this. Although I can't understand some difficult theories when I give a report on the stage, she always says that I am so charming when I am on the stage, so don't lose heart if you think you can't speak. Girls only look at your style and don't pay much attention to your content.

Having the same goal is the first step to open her heart:

Let two people have the same goals and objectives, it is easy for her to have the illusion that two people are the same fate, which is also the usual trick of many playboys. This phenomenon is very common in large companies, such as bosses and secretaries. Because they have to face external events together, they are particularly prone to feelings. Actually, you can think for yourself. Now, if you and your classmates do the same job together, will you be closer? Similarly, if you can have the opportunity to solve problems with her, or take her side in ideas, you can immediately close the distance with her! In the same way, speaking is the same. Let's say "we" rather than "you and me". Furthermore, sometimes, if you make any mistakes or some harmless little secrets that others know, you can let her know. Of course, if you only tell her, it is very easy to close the distance between the two sides, because they share the same secret. Or two people make some small mistakes together and don't let people know, which has the same effect.

D avoid answering questions with "yes/no" when talking:

Some people, when they meet for the first time, always have nothing to say without a few words. Come to think of it, many people make the same mistake, that is, they always ask questions that can be answered by "yes" or "no" ... Well, for example, you ask her, "Did you watch a movie? Why don't you ask her, "What leisure activities do you usually have? "Come on. Because every time she just says "yes" or "no", she can answer, so didn't the conversation between them end at once?

E. When talking to girls, we must pay attention to some taboo sentences that cannot be repeated:

Girls are more likely to be hinted than men, and repeating sentences that men think are indifferent will still unconsciously affect women's thoughts. For example, a woman thinks her skin is black. If you always talk about how bad other people's skin is, she will mistakenly think that you are disrespecting her. You must pay attention to this when you first start dating.

F. praise women's skills:

I think, as we all know, if you want to chase a girl, you always have to compliment her. However, some people praise it in order to let women use it, while others flatter it. When praising a woman, you must put forward a specific "where". How to say it, for example, you should praise how beautiful a woman is, not say "You are so beautiful", but clearly point out: "Your skin is very good!" "or" your eyes are so spiritual! "Wait", if you have something to say, you must express her advantages clearly, otherwise people will easily have the illusion of flattery, so it is not good to praise her due benefits. Or you can say "everyone thinks you are beautiful" in another way, and praise you with "everyone says" in other people's words, so that women often think this is not a compliment, but a real compliment.

First, you should take the initiative.

Most girls like a responsible man. Women attach great importance to first impressions. Grow up and think about which woman will fall in love with a naive person.

Mature men will face their responsibilities bravely.

Take the initiative to be alone with her, but keep it moderate. The girl is timid, don't scare her.

Steady and independent, do everything in a panic without chaos. Have the temperament and grace of a man, have compassion, especially small animals. (Women like such men)

You should also have confidence. You can't do anything well without confidence. When you encounter something worrying in your life, you should face it optimistically (provided that she knows you have met it) and let her see how strong you are.

If you are sincere and do it with your heart, then she will come to you.

If she's worth chasing, then take action.

I found you some ways to chase girls and see if it helps you.

& lt the difference between a popular man and an unpopular man >

Popular men always keep a wide distance from undesirable women, but for eager women, there are ways to keep her around. Women are bound to be curious about men who attract attention (curiosity is fatal to women), and this curiosity can be used in interesting conversations and fresh intelligence information. If you are unpopular, even if the other person is curious, I can only try my best to escape as soon as I see you. Unpopular men are always lonely around me. Whenever I want to liven up the atmosphere, I want to be a popular person. I must have self-confidence (self-confidence and not arrogance are the only way to chase my girlfriend, remember! ), and good interpersonal relationships, I believe that in this way, a good girl will belong to you.

& lt from friends to lovers >

I finally got a chance to ask her out, but I didn't know what gift to bring. It's best to bring a flower on this occasion, so that you may pin it on her chest (giving gifts is knowledge, but it is unwise to insert flowers on the chest of an "unfamiliar" woman) or send it, which naturally forms an opportunity to kiss each other. As for dining, you may have to be careful the first time, but you can choose after the second time.

& lt Give yourself a chance to step into her inner world >

After the other person becomes your girlfriend, many people worry that their relationship will not go on. In fact, if these people don't care too much, they will often let the opportunity to improve their mood slip away quietly. In the female ethnic group, they attach great importance to the boys who want to help women with their coats, because at the moment of taking off their coats, if there are men present, it is easy for women to have the illusion of lovers. When riding in the car, if you can say: put the forgotten things on my side, it will bring you closer to her. But if these behaviors are not used properly, they will be self-defeating.

& lt create an accident >

Mystery is very important to women. Men who meet by chance are more attractive to women than men introduced by others or known in the workplace. If this accidental situation happens repeatedly, women will be convinced of the existence of fate. But can they create a second chance? In fact, this is something that everyone can do. If you want to meet a girl anyway, you can check her commuting route and other related matters in detail, so it will be much easier to create a second chance. It is much easier to accept that women are successful men. Women always pay attention to the essential existence of men's true colors, so when they understand that men's true colors are not their favorite types, most people will take the opportunity to escape. It's better to make some changes if it can meet her preferences. In addition, excellent memory is a characteristic of women. Some men forget a sentence, but women remember it clearly, so you must remember everything you said to her.

& lt What kind of gift does she want? & gt

In terms of gifts, if a girlfriend likes small items, she can give a ring, a watch or flowers. If she likes big items, you can send big dolls or large and numerous bouquets to win her favor. Generally speaking, people who like small items are mostly mature people, because these items can be placed within their control. So most women who like big dolls are still a little childish, so she may haunt her boyfriend when she is happy. However, it is also possible that after she is tired of hugging dolls, she doesn't want to hug you anymore. In this respect, women who like small items seem to be more likely to cultivate long-term love, although it will cost you more.

& lt Give her dreams in communication >

Some people think that girls are easy to be cheated, but is this really the case? In fact, even if a girl is cheated, she will have a willing idea. So when a well-dressed man appears in front of them, these girls are likely to gamble their luck according to their own wishes. So the most important thing is that you should give each other some dreams. At first, you can't change your attitude or commitment to approach her. To be clear, you should give her dreams. If you keep her dream, your relationship will be deeper.

If your girlfriend yawns lightly on a date, it's not that she is tired, but that you say she is tired of you (be careful in this short period, it's important to know whether a woman is impatient with you), or that she slightly signals you to pay attention to the time on your watch, indicating that she already wants to go home. If her thoughts are strong, then she may show that she always looks around at your behavior. At this time, you probably don't exist in her heart. If a woman is with the man she loves, she often doesn't care about her surroundings. If these women are self-centered, it's not too much, but if women look to other things, you should be prepared to end this relationship at any time. If women say "men are really annoying", many women like to add the word "annoying" after a sentence. But in this usage, there are two different meanings that deserve attention. When "hate" is generally used to express it, if it is not very close, it often appears in men and women who are very close. Then the other person may give you a contemptuous look in silence, so if a woman is willing to talk to you, your intimacy will increase in comparison. In order to increase intimacy, you have to show her your masculinity as soon as possible, but if a man makes a woman feel unclean, it is likely to make her flinch.

& lt Observe women by talking & gt；;

What kind of person is she? If she is a person who can talk nonstop, it is easy to make people wonder what is going on in her mind. Humans always want others to take a look at themselves, so both men and women always arrange their appearance properly, but their appearance is not complete enough, so through dialogue, others can know themselves better. Women whose voices change quickly, they will express their inner excitement with their voices, and speaking softly is also a type that can make people enjoy it. However, you should pay special attention to women who talk like neighbors. She may be extremely jealous, on the contrary, a woman with low sound quality may be more masculine.

& lt Women who often listen to walkman are more self-centered & gt；;

Recently, you can often see some women wearing walkman on the bus. In fact, some of these women who use headphones to suppress their hearing are actually trying to escape loneliness and immerse themselves in the music world. However, some women are willing to take off their headphones for men, but this requires considerable vigilance, because this is one of the types of self-centered people.

& lt Women are usually attracted by [first impressions].

It has been reported that women should be careful about their first impression of (-), and many people died at this point! ! ) Men with beards have a higher opinion than men without beards. Appearance, posture and clothes are all important factors that determine the first impression. If these first impressions are not brought into play, it will be bad. Usually, the first impression given by appearance is deeply embedded in the other person's heart, so the first impression is very important. If a man can pay attention to his attitude towards clothes at ordinary times, he will win in love.

How to chase the existing flower of the Lord?

Once a girl has a boyfriend and makes a promise, she will not easily accept the love of others.

But what should you do if you like a girl with a boyfriend?

Don't rush to have sex, you will definitely be rejected. Because she doesn't know you very well, she won't give up her existing love for you. Be kind to her, care for her in every possible way, appear as a friend of the opposite sex and play with her. Over time, she will think you are a good boy. Don't let her have the opportunity to refuse you, and don't make any demands on her. Let her know you have something for her.

Then, when your relationship (friendship with her) develops to a certain stage, find an opportunity (when she just fell out with her boyfriend). Write or talk implicitly.

She may refuse at this time, but if you find that she doesn't hate you, do it. She will choose you over her ex-boyfriend.

This is the whole process, but before that, you must compare yourself with her boyfriend. If you feel that you are not as good as the above method, it is invalid.

Small means of chasing girls

(1) Chasing girls who are silent and arrogant.

At first glance, this seems to be tricky. In fact, these girls are indifferent in appearance and often fanatical in heart. They generally like boys who are a little wild. If you are the kind of gentle boy, with a long difference and little possibility, you'd better choose another beautiful woman. If people say, "That's cool!" Then you hope big! If your first invitation is not rejected, then you must not miss the opportunity! They may be extremely careless about you at first. Don't be discouraged at this time.

Be sure to persist, even if it is repeated. Watching movies, dancing, skating and going to her usual study room are all good strategies. Be sure to find more opportunities to express yourself, a lot (of course, Iloveyou will save it for the last time, hehe) ... For this type of girl, your true feelings are very attractive.

This kind of girl usually has to chase for a long time. If you are about to graduate or leave school now, it seems best not to start. So as not to waste ... hehe. However, after catching up, she will generally be dead set, and you will be on cloud nine and feel that you are the happiest BF in the world! Ha ha.

(2) Girls who pursue romantic fantasies

If you really like such a girl, let me remind you first-you are going to taste the ups and downs! This kind of girl seems to pursue spirit more than material, but in fact it is just the opposite. Romance needs money to build. If you don't have enough financial resources, I hope you'd better reconsider. Because she likes romantic things, flowers and chocolates, you can touch her heartstrings most by giving more gifts.

If you want to catch up with this kind of girl, don't be stingy with your little money. Besides the moon in the sky, there are other things on the ground (what? As long as she wants it, you should try your best to get it without hesitation. Usually roses and snacks are more subtle ... in short, if you want to chase such girls, you must cultivate your mind-reading ability. Don't forget to bribe the roommates of the girls around you.

They will tell you a lot of useful information. And you must think more about your dress, and don't be rustic all day. After catching up with a girl, you can safely show your true colors, because in her eyes, you are no longer rustic. Haha)

If you want to play with her, you should also go to more romantic places, such as spring outing, dancing and watching love stories ... she will gradually be inseparable from your care, haha! Although such a girl costs you a lot of money, it will also bring you a lot of wonderful fun. As long as you really like it, you can still live happily.

(3) Chasing tender and considerate girls

This kind of girl is dedicated. Once she becomes your GF, she will take good care of you, be gentle and amiable, and let you feel the warmth and reliability of love. If you can catch up with this kind of girl, theoretically you will become the most comfortable man. This kind of girl should be easy to chase (also suitable for all kinds of boys), as long as she doesn't hate you, you deserve her. Now let's discuss the means.

First of all, you should pay more attention to her in life and study. She doesn't need any material things, but needs a heartfelt concern to appear in front of her when she needs help. (Reminder, you must observe more at ordinary times to find a good opportunity to start. Of course, if you are a romantic, it is foolproof to send flowers and gifts on holidays.

At first, you can send something friendly, and when you feel you can express it (for example, she looks at you differently from others or seems a little overwhelmed in front of you), you can send roses! If you don't want to be so extravagant, you can reveal some in the chat after self-study on weekdays. When the time is right, you will suddenly say something like "It feels good to be with you". If she doesn't hide, you can strike while the iron is hot and say what you have long wanted to say. The best time is at night: people's defense ability is weak at night. If she starts to avoid, don't force her, you can care silently until she is moved.

BTW: If you don't have much contact with her at ordinary times, you will have a goal when she doesn't know you. You can pretend to meet her by chance through friends like her, and then deepen your impression through several "encounters" in the same study room, and then you can start. Don't think that this kind of girl is honest and safe to catch up with. Actually, it depends on someone. Some people won't let her leave you in an emergency. If you can't, you should always write and call.

(4) Chasing lively and lovely girls

This kind of girl seems to like a lot of people. Moreover, in the new environment, boyfriends are often the first. Not because they are easy to chase, but because they often have to take the initiative. If you like this kind of girl, if she likes you, it will be easy. Get in touch with her more, occasionally show your affection for her, and she will be close to your goal at the same time. If she doesn't like you (worse, she likes another person), don't lose heart. As long as you still have a chance, you should fight for it (of course, you are just so-so to her, so you don't have to). You can first exist in the form of friendship with her and try to cultivate a hobby similar to her. In the meantime, your humor and openness are very important, so that she can still think of you on her way back. If the person she likes is not interested in her, then you can take your time until she takes the initiative to you.

At this time, you can take obvious strategies to make her really become your girlfriend. If she and he like each other, if you think she deserves to be accused of stealing others' love, you can give them a final blow before they talk to each other. At this time, opportunities are very important.

You should observe carefully. When they have conflicts and misunderstandings, take advantage of them (it doesn't seem very ... haha) and arrive first. Victory may well belong to you in the end! (Generally, girls won't have other ideas after catching up, haha. ) This kind of girl may be liked by unsuspecting people after having BF, so you should tell "Please! She belongs to me! " The result should be optimistic.

First, what kind of first impression should I leave on mm (time: I just started to contact mm)

1, I think the most important thing is to let mm see your self-motivated.

The greatest charm of a man lies in his successful career. Young people can't be "successful" if they don't work long hours. At this time, you should make mm feel that you are a self-motivated person.

Others can talk nonsense, but this question cannot be vague. You must tell mm that you are full of confidence in the future, that you are not satisfied with the status quo, and that you have a long-term plan. In a word, your future is not a dream.

2. Be confident and responsible.

Don't be a child. Girls are lazy and want to find someone to rely on. You should show your confidence and sense of responsibility. It's better to have a wrong choice than no choice at all.

Not too formal, but not too casual.

Where it is serious, it is serious. It's funny when it's funny. Girls like men who are a little cynical, so it seems that they don't care about anything, which is too dull.

Step 4 look mature

A leisurely man has fatal attraction to mm.

Second, how to further contact mm (time: the stage of starting to chase)

1, the most important thing at this stage is not to worry, not to make things so clear that people can see at a glance that you are chasing others. Think about it. Most people don't like you at first sight, but they don't hate you at first sight. They are all children of ordinary people (unless you look like Chow Yun Fat, Andy Lau or kevin costner). Good feelings need to be realized through constant understanding, so the key to the problem is the opportunity for further development you want.

Think about it from the girl's point of view: if you rush directly to have sex, the girl must be under psychological pressure. If I find that I don't like you after a while, it won't be a lie, will it? So if you come out resolutely from the beginning, you will basically be bored back immediately.

Step 2 start with a low profile

First of all, we should position the relationship as a "friend", which is originally an "ordinary friend". You want to be a "good friend". Those with taste can also ask the other party to be a "confidante" or something. In short, don't say "chasing you".

Think about it, if you don't mention "chasing" at all, then there is less chance for a girl to "refuse" you-how can you refuse if you don't chase her? !

This can relieve the psychological pressure of girls and let you have a smooth relationship. Don't fantasize about agreeing to marry you after three days. You should communicate fully and understand that feelings don't come out of thin air.

Don't be too impatient in the process of communication.

Relax and don't pester others all day. Anyone who does this to you will get tired of it. A good friend of mine told me that the key to chasing girls is eight words-"hot and cold, playing hard to get" (this is the crystallization of my classmates' efforts for many years).

Staying with people all day, naturally you won't think you are good. If you are indifferent for a day or two, girls will remember the benefits of your existence.

Also, don't take out the ambition of "you must marry". It is not good for the price to drop too low. Sometimes you can play a little trick.

4. Create opportunities appropriately.

I said before, don't turn things into "you are chasing others" right away, you need to get close to girls. At this time, it depends on your creativity.

You can collect information and find ways to turn waiting for rabbits into encounters; You can also pretend to be casual and find the best reason to invite someone to do something with you.

In short, this is the most technical place. If it is really not feasible, you can consult your predecessors.

Third, what is a "girlfriend"?

1, "girlfriend" is a fact, not a promise.

You start dating girls, from "ordinary friends" to "good friends" to "very, very good friends who talk about everything". On a sunny afternoon, you "accidentally" held her hand; In "Willow Shoot on the Moon", you suddenly attack and kiss her. At this time, she is already your girlfriend. Whether she admits it or not, she already thinks you are her boyfriend.

I know the best. I didn't ask "Would you like to be my girlfriend" until I went to bed. Finally, the girl was anxious: "Why don't you ask me to be your girlfriend!" "

So, don't rush to pierce enough paper, the more hazy the situation, the better for you.

2. What is "confession"?

As I said before, confession is actually just a form, and the correct order should be: in fact, you have become your girlfriend, and you can confess to others. Many people don't understand this problem. They always feel that people promise to be their girlfriends first, and then what? I can only say that he is very, very "simple" and very, very "stupid".

3. Have you ever had to confess?

Yes, for example, there is a third party, or your relationship with a girl is immature, but two people may be separated for a while.

At this time, confession is an immature confession, which is very risky. It is similar to the grim situation when playing Go. The backward side was forced to release the "winning hand". If you win, you win. If you lose, you can only say that you are born with bad luck.

4. Don't export the word "love" easily.

I often see a "bold confession" in the forum. To be honest, I really think this is a very immature performance. "Love" is a sacred word, which means pursuit, commitment and even a responsibility.

A man who casually says "love" is irresponsible.

I wish you a good mood!