Five short stories of empathy
[Short stories 1]
A pig, a sheep and a cow were kept in the same corral by the shepherd. One day, the shepherd took the pig out of the corral, only to hear the pig barking loudly and resisting strongly. Sheep and cows hate its howling, so they complain: we are often caught by shepherds, and we don't bark like you. ? The pig responded:? Arresting you and arresting me are completely different things. He arrested you just to share your hair and milk, and arrested me to share my life! ?
It is difficult for people with different positions and different environments to understand each other's feelings. Therefore, we should empathize with others' setbacks, setbacks and pains, and understand and care for others with a tolerant heart.
[Short Story 2]
You are you, I am me, you are not me, I am not you, but you treat me as you, I treat you as me, so you change places and think again.
A couple went to the mountain by car and got off halfway. I heard that the rest of the passengers on the bus didn't go far, so they all died when the mountain collapsed. The woman said, we are lucky to get off in time. The man said: No, it's because we got off the bus and the car stopped, which delayed their trip. Otherwise, we wouldn't happen to pass the landslide site at that moment.
The essence of empathy is to put yourself in others' shoes, that is, to think what others think and understand first. Between people, understanding is indispensable, which is an aspect of understanding and tolerance. Everyone is offended and misunderstood at times, and if you hold on to it, there will be an inextricable knot in your heart. If we can understand each other's inner world deeply, we may be able to reach an understanding. Generally speaking, we can understand as long as it doesn't involve issues of principle. Understanding is a kind of love, consideration, tolerance and understanding! !
[Short Story 3]
Father said that once he went to the store, the lady who walked in front pushed open the heavy door and waited until he entered. Father thanked her, and the lady said? My father is about your age. I just hope someone opens the door for him at this time. ? Hearing this, my heart warmed up and I had many associations.
I don't believe in the invisible God, but I firmly believe in the laws of nature. ? Empathy? It is an important law of the existence and development of human society.
Empathy is the basic moral education. From Confucius through the ages? Don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you? For Matthew? Treat others as you want them to treat you. People from different regions, races, religions and cultures are all saying the same thing.
The truth is full of scars. Empathy is the golden rule that human beings have summed up after a long-term game and paid a heavy price. No one is an island, and society is a stakeholder. We can't hurt our right hand with our left hand. We are leaves and fruits on the same tree. Krupotkin proved in the theory of mutual assistance that only the biota with strong mutual assistance can survive. For human beings, empathy is the premise of mutual assistance.
[Story 4]
There is a couple who want to rent a house. They dragged their tired bodies from house to house looking for a house, but few people liked it. In the afternoon, a miracle appeared. Two people * * * have taken a fancy to a house that both of them are satisfied with, and they are eager to pay a deposit to book a house! Because this house is great! The living room is like the living room! Toilets are like toilets! They don't like the kind of house where the living room is too messy like a toilet; I don't want a house with a luxurious toilet to the living room! )
The landlord appeared, and an old gentleman said, "I only have one restriction on renting a house, that is, I don't rent it to families with children." "The couple looked at each other.
Husband:? But what is the child next to us?
The wife scrambled to say:? It's an ornament! ?
Husband:? Wife! Did you stay? In order to rent a house, I treat my child as a fake! ?
Wife:? Wow ~ I really like this house, and I was miserable by this drag bottle! ?
When they were ready to leave in frustration, I saw the child ring the doorbell again, ding-dong!
Uncle turtle hair came to open the door again! The old man smiled and said, What is it? Decorations ~ hehehe! ?
Child:? Uncle, I want to rent a house! ?
The old man said: Rent a house? I don't rent it to families with children! ?
Child:? I know! I only have parents, no children! You can rent me the house! ?
Old man:? Ha ha! That's clever. All right, I'll rent it to you! ?
There are always many restrictions in life, whether positive or negative, and it will make people wonder why to follow them without thinking! Do you have this experience? Once work becomes a habit, rigid logic will follow. Sometimes I don't even know how to make a cup of coffee. Looking at it from another angle, it's terrible.
[Short Story 5]
There is a mother who likes to take her five-year-old daughter shopping, but her daughter is always reluctant to leave. Mother felt very strange. There are so many colorful things in the shop. Why don't children like it? Until one time, the child's shoes took off, and the mother squatted down to tie the child's shoelaces. Suddenly she found a terrible sight she had never seen before: all her legs and arms were shaking in front of her eyes. So she picked up the child and walked out of the shop quickly. From then on, even if she had to take the children to the store, she carried them on her shoulders.
What a careful mother.
? Squat down and see the world of children? It's really terrible to change places with students and reflect on our education. When students make mistakes, they usually take some measures, such as asking questions, reprimanding and punishing. In this way, students will not feel safe at all. Imagine how effective unsafe education is. No wonder many teachers feel wronged when they don't expect the expected results after educating their students. Good intentions are not rewarded? . In fact, such a big temper is not as good as the emotional influence of tolerance, understanding and consideration.
Education should consider students' acceptance. Educate students with a caring attitude, so that education will have a sense of security, education with a sense of security will be effective, and students will have confidence, pursuit and action. The teacher gives the students a little care and makes them feel confident.
In history study? Reverse thinking? law
First of all, empathy
The so-called empathy is to think about all or part of the positive and negative characteristics of historical events or historical phenomena. We study? American Civil War? For example. The fundamental reason for the outbreak of the American Civil War is the contradiction between the two different economic systems in the North and the South after the independence of the United States. We switch the north and the south, and ask in turn: If the south is a capitalist industrial and commercial economy and the north is a slave plantation economy, can the south allow slaves to exist in the north? The answer is obviously no. First of all, because the capitalist industrial and commercial economy needs markets, raw materials and free labor. Second, the main reason for the victory of the North is its strength and the support of the people. Let's switch the North and the South, and then ask them in turn: If the North is weak and the South is strong, will the North still win? The answer is still yes, but the situation is more complicated and difficult. Because the capitalist economy conforms to the inevitability of historical development, the victory in the North is also the inevitability of historical development. Then we can draw a deeper conclusion: anyone who goes against the historical trend and deviates from the people's hearts will be doomed to failure.
As can be seen from the above, we can put ourselves in the shoes of all the conclusions involving both sides of historical events and the analysis of the inevitability or contingency of historical phenomena. Students might as well try more, and there will be many unexpected gains.
Second, think from another angle.
Thinking from another angle is to think about historical things from other angles after thinking from a conventional angle. This is not only conducive to exploring various factors of historical events and historical phenomena, but also conforms to the multi-dimensional characteristics of historical innovative thinking. We study? The Grand Canal in Sui Dynasty? For example. Generally speaking, the conventional thinking about digging the Grand Canal is from two angles: first, it strengthened the traffic between the north and the south, consolidated the rule of the Sui Dynasty over the whole country, and promoted the economic and cultural exchanges between the north and the south and the prosperity of cities along the canal; Second, it wasted people's money, local officials seized the opportunity to blackmail people, causing people's resentment to boil, and Emperor Yang Di himself was extremely extravagant and politically corrupt, which eventually led to the demise of the Sui Dynasty. Let's ask from another angle: the project is so huge that it will undoubtedly consume huge financial and material resources. If the economy is depressed and the national strength is weak, can North Korea be carved into this main artery of north-south traffic? Of course not. This confirms the conclusion in the textbook: the economy of Sui Dynasty was prosperous. In addition, in the complex geographical and hydrological environment of four or five thousand miles, the ingenious use of natural rivers and ancient canal passages reflected the superb level of water conservancy survey and engineering design at that time, thus proving the intelligence and great creativity of the working people in China. This is not in the textbook, but it is worth pondering.
Third, divergent reverse thinking.
Divergent thinking is multi-directional thinking from one point to many points, from point to surface, and from here to there. Divergent reverse thinking is divergent thinking of conventional thinking. It can strengthen our knowledge, understanding and memory of some knowledge points. Shall we study again? Battle of Surabaya? For example. The Battle of Feishui was a unified war launched by the former Qin after a long period of division. According to the conventional thinking, "how? Joint war? They all conform to the people's hearts, because people hate war and long for a unified, stable and peaceful living environment, so they should be supported by the broad masses of the people. But what about the old Qin dynasty? Joint war? Why is it opposed by the people and unpopular? This is the root cause of the failure of the former Qin Dynasty. ) We ask divergent reverse questions: Why do people object? Joint war? And then what? Judging from the composition of soldiers in Qin Jun, most of them were forcibly recruited by people of all ethnic groups. Suffering from national oppression, they are eager to get rid of the rule of the former Qin Dynasty. Therefore, it can be judged that the people are not against national reunification, but against the former Qin Dynasty's call for reunification. Sharp ethnic contradictions made the former Qin Dynasty not qualified to unify the whole country. Of course, there are other reasons, such as commander Qin Jun's improper tactics. As commander in chief, Fu Jian is proud and underestimates his enemy; Qin Jun lacks training and its fighting capacity is not strong. We constantly carry out divergent reverse thinking; According to the situation at that time, starting from the Eastern Jin Dynasty, the opponent of the former Qin Dynasty, we can draw another reason for the failure of the former Qin Dynasty, that is, the economic development in the south of the Yangtze River is rapid, the social order is relatively stable, and it has the ability to resist foreign invasion. In this way, the reasons for the failure of the former Qin Dynasty can be summed up in these five articles. Students can think in connection with the historical facts they have learned.
History is a changing observatory. But we are used to thinking patterns, which usually hinder our insight and innovative ideas. Use? Reverse thinking method? Studying history can effectively help us break the mindset, improve our ability to distinguish ready-made views and conclusions, help us broaden our horizons, activate our thinking and enrich our historical theory; Only in this way can our history study step into a colorful world.