In the traditional family in China, the father seems to have his own person, who is not good at talking, and even very strict with his children, and plays the role of "strict father" in the family.

However, the father's education and character cultivation of children is different from that of mothers, which is macroscopic and great.

I want to share with you the letters written by three famous fathers to their children. In their hearts, they want their children to be like this!

Hushi

I want you to be an upright person, not my dutiful son.

liang qichao

Mo Wen harvests, but requires cultivation.

In Liang Qichao's letter, he doesn't talk about success, but only cares about learning and being a man.

Mr. Liang Qichao has nine children, all of whom are very successful under his family education. "A scholar has three academicians and nine children are very talented."

The eldest son Liang Sicheng, the second son Liang Siyong and the fifth son Liang are all academicians, the third son graduated from West Point Military Academy, the fourth son Liang Sida is an economic researcher, the eldest daughter Liang is a literary historian, the second daughter is a famous librarian, the third daughter Liang Siyi is a social activist and the fourth daughter is a female soldier of the New Fourth Army.

Liang Qichao said in his letter that "Mo Wen harvests, but strives for cultivation" comes from Zeng Guofan's famous saying: "If you are not a saint, you are an animal; Mo Wen harvested, but asked about farming. This sentence became the motto of his life and was often quoted by later generations.

This sentence tells people, don't talk about fame and fortune in everything. If you pay for it, then life will spin in the whirlpool of fame and fortune, and there can be no real achievement.

Chen Duxiu

In the life of teenagers, you can also listen to your future.

Chen Duxiu's two letters to his son Chen Songnian are the only two letters in his family.

Chen Songnian is Chen Duxiu's third son. He has two brothers in the world: Yan Nian and Qiao Nian; There is a half-brother in the Year of the Crane. There is also a sister and a younger sister. In other words, Chen Duxiu has many children.

After reading three letters, what role do you think dad plays? Strict father, teacher or friend?

With the changes of the times, people's ideas have already changed dramatically. Now for 8090 parents, dad exists as a child's game partner.

Mother is more through language. Although mother and father were involved in the child-rearing process from the beginning, they played different roles.

There is an interesting phenomenon that most of the visitors who do family education consultation are mothers, which shows that there may be a phenomenon of "Yin flourishes while Yang declines" in educating children.

In family education in China, 50% are mothers, 20% are fathers, and 30% are equally divided.

Many fathers put the responsibility of educating their babies on their mothers and hide themselves from leisure. Actually, this is not good.

Without male education, children's personality, emotion, will and way of thinking will be affected to some extent.

So what can dad do? Start with the game.

The more children listen and watch, the more they want to listen and see, which is determined by their curiosity.

Children's curiosity and excitement will determine the direction of their future development, that is, what they will do and create in the future. We call the stage when we have to accept the stimulation of the sensory system the sensitive stage of sensory development.

The sensitive period of sensory development is not only related to the development of language ability, but also closely related to the development of hearing and vision. This has been proved many times in animal experiments.

Share some games suitable for younger children.

● prone training

65438+ 0 months after birth, the child can raise his face and hold it for a few seconds. Lay the mattress first, and then let the child lie on his stomach. The child will try to hold his head up about 30 degrees for 2 to 3 seconds. Doing more prone training can promote the development of vestibule and help children turn over in the future.

● Gymnastics with reflexes.

Put dad's little finger in the child's palm, and the child will immediately grasp dad's little finger, and dad can slowly drive the child to straighten his arm naturally.

● Let children see small pendants.

Move the pendant embedded with black or red graphics slowly in front of the child, then pass through the child's right ear and turn to the left ear. If it is a small pendant that can make a sound, it is better to hang it in front of the child's bed, but the game time should generally not exceed 10 minutes.

This little game helps to train your eyes to focus highly.

● Make eye contact with dad.

When talking to children, fathers should pay attention to eye contact with children at the same time, and the distance can be controlled at about 20cm. This is very effective for visual development.

● Dynamic vision training.

First prepare a small-caliber flashlight, wrap the lamp holder with a red cloth, and then illuminate the front of the child's face at a distance of 25cm.

If the child starts to look at the light, slowly and alternately move the light to both sides. After mastering horizontal movement, you can change to vertical direction for training.

Dad is willing to take risks.

In the eyes of mothers, protecting children's safety is an absolute motto. Fathers are different. Fathers are more willing to try new things and take their children to try moderate risks.

Dad is informal.

Mother takes care of the baby carefully, likes to tidy up beautifully and cleanly, and has a set of guidelines in her heart. Although this perfect guardian is comprehensive, it is a bit rigid. Moreover, informal fathers wear their children's clothes backwards and socks don't match. Although strange, it is enough to make children feel warm and happy.

Compared with the maturity of mother, father is more "naive".

They can always blend in with the children. Sometimes, relaxed humor is often more effective than severe reprimand and preaching.

Mothers are more unbearable when they find their children frustrated, while fathers are willing to let their children experience a little frustration because it helps them learn to face problems.

Although the father's approach seems impersonal, it is a unique way for him to love his children, and it is also more conducive to children facing the real world.

Mothers usually have a logic: if children love me, they should do as I ask.

Fathers believe that this logic will only lead to more frustration. Fathers generally don't exaggerate a small matter, just talk about the matter and let their children do what they should do.

In addition, if the children are not around, the mother will become upset, while the father seems to be not worried at all, which also gives them the advantage of handling things calmly.

Mother is sensitive, careful and gentle, and can give her children a lot of care and care. The lack of male education often makes children show the characteristics of sentimentality, cowardice, timidity, loneliness and inferiority.

And dads just make up for these shortcomings. They are tough and bold, decisive and confident, bold and independent, which are slightly weak for their mothers, showing their irreplaceable role in education.

A large number of scientific studies show that fathers' more participation in raising children has a positive impact on children's language, behavior, social interaction, psychology and cognitive development.

In short, the baby brought out by dad is smarter. Please give it to dad. Excellent children are inseparable from the efforts of their parents.