Spoiling children is a traditional parenting method in China, because the children cultivated by doting lack independent personality, which is in line with China's way of thinking.

Since ancient times, there has been a saying that "a loving mother defeats her child." The so-called "loving mother" refers to an excessive maternal love, that is, doting. Literally, the word "drowning" is both excessive and drowning. To love children too much is to drown them. The ancients said: "Although you love it, it is really harmful; Although I love it, I actually hate it. " This is the best annotation to the word "pet". There is a saying in Everything is done wrong: People don't love their parents, but everyone can see love, which may not be cured. This means that the feelings between people are nothing like parents loving their children. But only love may not educate a good child.

There is a well-known example of parents doting on their children. It is said that there was a boy in ancient China who was spoiled by his mother. Before his execution, he asked for another sip of his mother's milk. His mother unbuttoned his skirt and fed him. The boy bit off his mother's nipple. The boy bit off his mother's nipple because he hated her doting and pampering.

Coincidentally, there is such a story about parents doting on their children in the famous Aesop's Fables. A young thief was caught red-handed, tied his hands and brought to the executioner. The loving mother followed closely, beating her chest and crying. My son turned around and said he wanted to say something to her. Mother approached, but her son bit her off. The mother scolded her son for being unfilial. This is not enough to constitute a crime, and she bit off her ear. The juvenile delinquent said, "If you hit me the first time I stole my classmate's clipboard for you, why do you have more and more courage to put me to death?"

There is a fable in the book An Introduction to Ancient and Modern Tan. In order to avoid disaster, kingfishers began to nest high in the trees. After the bird hatched, it loved it very much, and was afraid that the bird would fall from the high nest and die, so it moved the nest down. When the little kingfisher grows feathers, it is very beautiful, and it is even more fondle admiringly. It was even more afraid that the little kingfisher would fall, and once again moved its nest down to a branch near the ground. In this way, the kingfisher was relieved, but pedestrians passing by the tree found the little kingfisher and raised their hands to take it away.

There is another story in Balzac's works. The flour merchant Gao Laotou dotes on his daughter. He married off most of his property and let her squeeze into the business and live a luxurious life as a lady. In order to make his daughter happy, he paid her lover's debts and helped her commit adultery. However, the married daughters, after squeezing their father's last pension, abandoned him as ruthlessly as squeezing lemons.

Rousseau, a French educator, said, "Do you know any way to make your children unhappy? This method is to be obedient to him. " Is to spoil.